Marriage Counseling vs. Couples Coaching in Carlsbad/San Diego & beyond…!
Marriage Counseling today is taking on a new direction. Today, Couples’ Coaching is the new marriage counseling. This is because more and more couples are recognizing their relationship goals. Whether you are a marriage counselor or married couple, living together, or engaged, you may be interested in these leading-edge programs which Teresa has created during her 20 years as a Dating Coach & Couples Catalyst. Some couples are dealing with anxiety or depression, sometimes both. Some just want to rekindle their romance. Others are trying hard to rebuild trust & respect. Marriage counseling has to deal with all of this and more. But most often, couples today want to create a more fulfilling romantic connection. As a therapist offering counseling, I consider what I do couples therapy or couples coaching, and stay focused on the desired results which the couple is working towards.
Relationship advice today must address a wide range of issues. This is Love in the 21st Century, after all. We’re in a new millennium. Couples counseling, premarital counseling, dating your mate, renewing vows, planning weekend getaways or honeymoons, and such, must address issues which traditional marriage counselors might not encounter or be prepared for in their sessions with today’s men and women.
A couples therapist or couples counselor must deal with both the individuals as well as the relationship itself. Today, women and men want more than their parents did from a marriage. Being more affluent, having greater access to social situations, more information, more ideas, couples today face a brave new world which could either bring them closer or drive them apart. Society isn’t the glue holding marriages together like it used to. Today, each person gets to decide what they need and want to be happy, and if it isn’t with their partner, they are more often than not will to dissolve the marriage.
Fortunately or unfortunately, divorce is no guarantee for happiness either. Most divorcees report feelings of failure which their subsequent 2nd, 3rd, or even 4th marriage often don’t resolve. So it’s not about staying together or not staying together. It’s about personal growth! This is why the coaching model works so well, it motivates both individuals to identify their prime objectives so communication becomes specific and fruitful. But even more than that, this model of couples therapy inspires a physical and emotional closeness which is often at the heart of most disputes. When people feel loved & cherished, they become flexible & compassionate.
We live in a very money-oriented society here in the USA. This puts alot of stress on couples who might not opt for a two-career family if they didn’t have to. Wives usually just want to have their husbands spend more time with them & their children. Men want support & appreciation for all they are doing to show up in their lives. A fast-paced life is often a haste-makes-waste situation, so the first step is to get men and women to slow down enough to breathe more deeply, and connect with the wisdom voice within.
It’s true, any crisis is an opportunity for something better than before, isn’t it? If you are ready, willing, and able, you can get the coaching you need to create a better life for you & your beloved. It’s hard to think clearly when you’re congested with distressful feelings, so the first thing you need to do is vent with someone who will hold a safe space for you to do so. Then, you need to learn about the options which at this moment, you may not be aware of. After that, then it’s time to discuss ideas with your partner, when they are in a receptive & conversant mood.
“Let there be spaces in your togetherness.” — Kahlil Gibran
Getting the support you need for your marriage can actually be fun. We can turn your predicament around and make your situation the best thing that’s every happened in your life. How can I say this? Because I’ve lived it. Even the death of a loved one can be a sacred rite of passage which beckons us forward on this journey through life. Even divorce can be a meaningful milestone that lifts us to a new perspective on the meaning of our lives.
Everything else is a piece of cake, comparatively speaking, right? We don’t have to be captive to depression, anxiety, fear, addiction, abuse, or anything that doesn’t lift us to our inherent potential. But, we must take those steps forward. We must go to the inner gym to develop the fortitude & character development to discern what is best for us, and then stay the course. Everyday we make choices. Today, you can make more empowering & strategic choices for your present circumstance as well as for your future.
Anywhere you can access a phone or computer, with some peace & quiet while we work together on what’s happening, is all you need to get started.
As an alternative to traditional marriage counseling, this coaching model asks each person to be accountable for goal development, clear communication, and cheerful cooperation. She’s been doing this for 20 years. Her program is called, Love in the 21st Century. There are many modules in this program; one for everyone.
She uses the “life coaching” model for relationship success between husbands and wives, domestic partners, and other people in love.
Let’s face it, relationships can feel easy or hard, depending on how you approach it. Teresa encourages each person to first get right with themselves, before they start focusing on their partner. Two healthy & mature people are more likely to have a happy marriage, right? Given this fact, we focus on making sure each individual is strong, flexible, and centered in their world view & self-awareness, what’s important to them, so they can in turn, better communicate with their spouse and build a wonderful life together, or amicably “uncouple”. However, we focus on helping lovers resolve issues before its too late.
Sustaining a long-term relationship or marriage takes proper focus, dedication, and most importantly, the right perspective. But sometimes, even the most seemingly ideal relationships can start to suffer. Add to that, Life’s unexpected challenges, and stress will eventually catch up with you, taking a toll on even the most stable of relationships. After all, “Life is change” and the heart can only take so much!
So if you and your partner could use some help with the issues you’re currently facing, consult Teresa and enroll in one of her Couple’s Coaching programs, via phone, online, or in-person, at one of our locations in the USA.
“Thanks to your insightful program, I have reached my goals in spirituality and am enjoying a quality of life that I never thought I could. It has made a huge impact in my love relationship.” PS, Trouble shooter, Credit Suisse, Zurich, Switzerland
“After working with you for only two months, I’m now signing up my psychiatrist wife & two children who are doctors too! This is very good work. You are my guru.” RS, Physician, Washington, DC
“Teresa, it’s only been six months working with you, and I am engaged to be married! I could never have done this without your insight and support. You are amazing. The invitation to our wedding will be arriving soon, I want you to be there.” SH, Psychiatrist, Napa, CA
“Teresa, you did the work that other psychologists and marriage counselors have failed to do for the past eight years. I now have a completely different understanding of my ex-wife, and this is helping my relationship with her, as well as our children. I can’t wait for you to help others like you have helped me. Men need this work.” WS, VP Marketing, Hewlett Packard, Palo Alto, CA
“You articulated the problems we’re dealing with and gave insight into their solutions, yet we’d never met you before!” GR, Architect, San Francisco, CA
“Teresa is not licensed, but I feel she’s the best therapist I’ve ever worked with. As a therapist myself, for the past 25 years, I am very impressed with her grasp of human nature and personal transformation techniques. I’ve reached a new level of self-awareness with her help and recognize a much deeper potential for my life.” Mikial, MFCC Therapist, San Diego
Marriage Counseling vs. Couples Coaching
By reviewing your challenges as a project in goal development & goal management, Teresa’s coaching programs keeps you moving forward. Whether it’s the first or 50th year of marriage, you have goals, desires, and you want to collaboration with your beloved. Let’s take it from there. You want to get married, go on a honeymoon, renew your vows, make love more often, or have better love-making, figure out the finances, start a garden, do some philanthropy, share more intimate thoughts & feelings, have more fun, take care of business, relocate, have children, take a break from the children, laugh, cry, relax, vent, sleep, whatever! Set your goals and let’s see what keeps getting in your way.
One thing you can be sure of, both you & your partner want to love & be loved. You & your partner both need alone & together time. You both want to be appreciated & accepted for who you are. You both want freedom of expression, trust, respect, kindness, and compassion. You want to explore your fantasies, take care of business, have a happy home, sleep well, eat well, and feel this gift of Life is precious together.
Note: In-person sessions depend on Teresa’s itinerary.